Love or….
“A happy man marries the girl he loves, a happier man loves the girl he marries.”
- Anonymous
How true is that?
I really wonder how many couples actually marry because they truly love the other person, or they marry them because they have no other choice? What I mean by that is, do you truly love the person that you are marrying? That you would be true to the person, and not look at other guys/girls and thinking, “Hey, I could try my luck tonight.” I did ask a guy who was happily cheating on his gorgeous wife as to why he did such a thing to her. His answer was, “It’s not that I don’t love my wife. I do. But…”
If you are in a relationship, why should you envy another couple? I don’t understand this thinking. It’s like, “Look at him! He does this without his GF telling him to.” or “He’s so sweet.”
Everyone has the ability to make their relationship the most memorable one themselves. I think this can be achieved if there is mutual respect for each other. If you respect your wife/fiance/gf, then you would resist all temptations to cheat on her. Just because the other person hits on you, it does not give you the reason to reciprocate and not take the blame for it. So if there’s mutual respect, then the love and longing for one another will bloom. Isn’t that the real reason for wanting to marry and grow old with that person forever and ever? Islam allows a man to marry up to 4 wives, PROVIDED he can be fair to every single one of them in terms of monetary support and emotional support. If not, then just stick to one! Why 4? It is so that men who cannot keep their attention on 1 be responsible for their actions 9 months later. By making it possible for them to marry more, there will be less abortions and fatherless children.
In summary, show your partner the respect that you would expect from them. Only then will true love develops. I wish you all the best in your relationships.
